Just Start

I remember exactly where I was when the college love of my (then) life and I broke up. I was sitting on the couch at my mom’s then boyfriend Brian’s house. I was so in love with him and had no reason to end it other than the fact that I was stuck. I was at a full stop in my life and he was moving full speed ahead. Honestly, I only know that last bit now. His full speed ahead attitude was magnifying my lack of any type of motivation. Until now it was probably the healthiest relationship I’ve ever had and he changed my life. It was one thing he said.

Just do something.

Wow. It really hurt at the time, but do something I did. I moved to California. I’m a big time talker. A dreamer. But I’ve never really been a do-er. I have lived in a constant state of fear and doubt and even more fear. I don’t even know where to start because I’m too scared to fail or look stupid that I don’t even try.  So last spring I had made the choice to do something again and I’ve kept doing somethings ever since. I refocused on my therapy, saw a doctor about my depression, swore off dating and I made a list of things I wanted to do.

  • Go on a camping trip alone.
  • Hike alone.
  • Go skiing alone.
  • Go see a show alone.
  • Go to a yoga class alone.

Do you see a trend here? I was so lost in my life that I had no idea what I actually liked to do which then led me to ask myself, who am I?! I wanted, and still do, to try everything. I haven’t done all of the things above but I did end up starting somewhere and booked myself a 6AM hike at Hanging Lake on August 8th, 2019. I’d wanted to hike it since I moved to Colorado in 2014 but never did because nobody I knew had ever planned a trip. Oooooookay. Did you hear me?! Plan your own damn trip, Taylor! So I did. Unfortunately I didn’t realize that it was nearly a 2.5 hour drive to get there until a few days before my solo adventure. Getting up at 2:45AM was not fun, and the drive there was a bit sketchy in the dark but it certainly kept me alert. Every single bit of the hike was worth it. I was also one of the first people at the lake and was able to enjoy all of its majesty in solitude.

Two weeks ago, after I lost my job due to COVID19, I decided that I’m going to start my own business. I’ve been overwhelmed and unsure where to start so my boyfriend held me while I cried and shared all my fears and simply whispered, “Just start.” Yes I’m absolutely terrified and I’m scared to fail or look stupid but I’ve come to far and accomplished too much in my life to not even try. We all need a little something to believe in right now and I’m choosing to believe in me. I’m taking all my big time talking and dreams and starting to do something.

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Here goes nothing. Or… maybe something huge.

Send Flour

Let’s just pretend that it hasn’t been months since my last blog, shall we? We are eyeballs deep in COVID-19 and no matter where you fall on the spectrum of supporting social distancing and stay at home orders, I think we can all agree that this is getting hard. Real hard. As a longtime sufferer of anxiety and depression, my extra outlets no longer exist. I can’t go grab a drink at the bar with my besties and my boyfriend and I can’t just walk into a coffee shop and sit together while he draws, and I work on my resume. Those things might seem silly, but we are all struggling in our own ways and this isn’t easy on anyone. People are dying, unable to pay their mortgages because they lost their jobs and it’s nearly impossible to get on the phone with your local unemployment office. We are all doing the best we can and trying to find ways to cope. This shit is hard.

I’ve been living in all the stages of grief through this. I go in and out of denial since this all started because I’ve been living in the bubble of my home. I’ve been angry since I found out that I was getting laid off from what I thought was my dream job and found out that I am not eligible for unemployment. Even angrier when I realized that I was replaced at work and have since felt helpless and unworthy, especially when every application I’ve submitted for a new job usually ends with the “Thanks but not thanks” email. The depression and feeling of disconnect has probably been the worst of it all and as we’ve all turned to a more digital sense of community it’s easy to feel even more disconnected than ever. We’re using FaceTime, Zoom, House Party, Marco Polo but those can’t replace a huge hug or being able to hold the hand of a friend as they mourn some loss in their life. Those moments are so precious and I’m holding onto the memories that flood my mind fiercely.

Okay, so bear with me as I try to pull this all together. I know at the start I said that we should pretend that it’s hasn’t been months since my last post but let’s be serious. I haven’t written in months and I’m a bit rusty.

Alright, so a longtime friend of mine and her husband decided to send me some money to help me with my bills.

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I have so many memories from back home of the two of us baking holiday treats and recreating our grandmother’s Christmas cookie recipes. Well, as you all know baking essentials are incredibly hard to come by these days so while I was experiencing all this gratitude, I was also feeling so disappointed that while y’all are over there baking banana bread, I’m disappointed that I can’t participate and bake something. #firstworldproblems

Well, a week later another friend sent me a care package with a bag of flour and a few boxes of sugar. I’d been commenting all the drool emojis on every single post about her baking adventures in Southern California and she knew I’d been unable to get my hands on any sort of baking essentials in the grocery shops here in Denver. I mean, I cannot. I’m even crying as I write this because both of these incredibly kind gestures reminded me that even in times like this, people are there. In large and small ways, people will show up for you. People will help you find joy.

The world is changing, life is changing, and now there’s no looking back unless it’s to see how far we’ve come. Dream big, reach out and ask for help, be honest, chase your fantasy. It’s time for all of us to rise up for each other. I’m in this with you and ready to help you find your light too. Oh, and share this recipe with you because it was damn good and we can all use something damn good in our lives.

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INGREDIENTS:

Banana Bread:

Nonstick cooking spray, for spraying the pan

2 cups flour, plus more for dusting the pan

1 TSP baking soda

1 TSP kosher salt

1 cup granulated sugar

5 very ripe bananas (I’m talking hella brown)

1/2 cup vegetable oil

1 TSP pure vanilla extract

2 eggs

Cheesecake Swirl:

2 8-ounce packages cream cheese, at room temperature

12/3 cup granulated sugar

1 cup low-fat cottage cheese

1 TBSP lemon juice

2 large eggs

INSTRUCTIONS:

  1. For the banana bread: Preheat to 325 degrees F. Generously spray a 13×9″ pan with nonstick spray.
  2. For the cheesecake swirl: Combine cottage cheese and lemon juice and puree with a food processor until smooth. Then blend the cream cheese, granulated sugar, and egg in a large bowl and mix until well combined; let that star of the show hang out on the sidelines for a bit.
  3. For the banana bread: Whisk together the flour, baking soda and salt in a medium bowl; set aside. Mash the granulated sugar and bananas in a large bowl to a paste. Whisk in the oil, vanilla and egg. Whisk in the flour mixture until just combined.
  4. Reserve 3/4 cup of the bread batter. Spread the remaining batter in the bottom of the prepared pan. Spoon the cream cheese mixture over the batter and put the reserved 3/4 cup batter in a line down the center of the pan. Insert the tip of a paring knife into the batter and drag it through and up to swirl 5 to 6 times.
  5. Bake until the top is cracked and a cake tester inserted in the center comes out clean, about 1 hour and 30 minutes. But every oven is different so make sure you keep an eye on the goods. Cool on a wire rack for at least 30 minutes, then carefully invert onto a platter or cake stand and then flip upright. Cool completely but I definitely recommend you refrigerate that magic overnight and then share it with friends.

As Long I Love Me

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It’s been a long time since I’ve written anything down. I mean aside from to-do lists or taking notes in a meeting. I’m not sure what has driven me to draft something today. So much of my life changed in the past few years. Perhaps it’s the move back to Denver? Being pulled back to a city that I never thought I would return to. It was like a dream coming back to the Mile High City. Vegas has brought me to a level of darkness within myself that I didn’t know would be the catalyst for an avalanche of change within myself. I found myself on the floor countless times riddled with anxiety while tears poured down my face. I spent many days in bed and many days without a shower. Thankfully one day I decided to pull myself out of that nightmare and actually made some new friends. I am forever grateful for that time, those people and everything I learned.

I truly thought my time back in Denver would be much different than it is today. I was moving back to one of my best friends, back to the gym I loved, and back to snowy winter days cuddled up with my ridiculous collection of scarves. I ended up quitting my job that brought me back here, starting a new gig that I recently left behind, and walked away from my favorite form of fitness. It was kind of a rough go. In the midst of all this change, I also found myself back to that dark place. The silver lining at the time the mindset returned is that it wasn’t as dark as it had been before. I’ve always been incredibly self aware too so when I started not being able to get out of bed again and constantly on the verge of tears I knew it was time to face the fear that I was likely suffering from depression.

I’ve been anti-medication for myself as long as I can recall. It’s nothing against modern medicine, I just always thought there was a natural solution for everything. When it came to depression and anxiety I always spiraled worse when I would tell myself that I was being ridiculous. I mean, I was in fact, being ridiculous. At least from the outside. I’ve got so much to be thankful for. I have great friends, a career, an amazing family. I ate right and exercised. My instagram is riddled with photos of me having the time of my life and inspirational quotes that preach the importance of self love but inside I had no idea who I was and I was not okay.

When I finally decided to see my doctor vs. just going to therapy (which I have for years) it was like a weight had been lifted but the world was still cloudy. After a few months of getting my dosage right it was like my life wasn’t blurry anymore because before that, even on my best day, everything just felt a bit foggy.  Then it happened. Slowly, I began to see her. Me. I was slowly able to face myself and all her beautiful imperfections and know that I was going to be okay. We were going to be okay.

I recently had a session with my therapist where she asked me to imagine myself as a child. To truly hold onto that moment. Once I was able to conjure up that vision of the bright eyed little girl who moved from school to school I reached out and held her. I told her hat she was enough. That she was going to be okay. That she was tough and a survivor and is safe. I spent my whole life trying to fit in. Hoping that the next school or the next house would be home. I learned to push aside what I wanted and be whatever I needed to be just to get through. To be liked and to find connection. To feel safe while the world around me was always changing.

Anyway, I still don’t know what the point of this ramble is but I do know that the move back to Denver brought me to a time in my life that I am truly chasing the things that bring me joy. The things that make me feel safe. I haven’t been dating for awhile to find focus. I bought a house that I can now call home. I spend time with quality people who make my life better. This last bit is a work in progress but I’m finally being unapologetically me and letting people see me. It’s kind of wonderful. I’m not hiding or pretending. I’m allowing myself to be seen and not just trying to get people to like me.

I’m living every day for myself and I’m a fucking warrior. She is beautiful. She is silly. She is strong. She is independent. She is resilient. I never thought I could accomplish the things I have or do what I have done alone but I’m not alone. That bright eyed little girl who moved from school to school and just wanted to fit in is right there with me. We’re doing this damn thing called life together. And I’m so thankful for her.

My Top 10

If you know me, you know these are the Top 10 things about me already. If you don’t, you’re welcome.

  1. I am sensitive. Basically, I cry ALL the time. I cry if something makes me really happy, I cry when I’m really sad, I cry when I’m angry… “If I’m not between a 3-7 on the emotional scale I’m crying.” Kirsten Bell is my emotional spirit animal.
  2. I hate gum. To me, there is nothing more disgusting. Like, I get why it exists but just…NO. I hate the smell of it, I hate the sound of people chewing it, if we are dating I won’t kiss you if you are (or I know you were) chewing it. I once had a boyfriend who thought it would be funny to spit his gum in my mouth when he went in to kiss me. We are no longer together. Do the math.
  3. I love my friends. Being an only child means that your friends become your family. I’m blessed with some really fucking awesome friends. For some reason, they think I’m awesome too. I will drop anything to be there if they need me and I love being part of their lives. I’m a pseudo auntie to many and I love those little offsprings just as fiercely
  4. My favorite physical quality is my hair. It took me 25 years to appreciate my thick, course hair. I can curl it and it will last for days or a week if I’m living on the edge and plaster it with dry shampoo. It might take an hour to blow dry and I shed hair like a mother fucker, but I get so many compliments on it and I’ve had hairdressers describe it as “their dream hair”. I have learned to be thankful for this mane of mine.
  5. I went to 9 schools in 12 years. My parents divorced when I was 6 and I lived with my mom. We moved around a lot. I went to 5 elementary schools, two junior high schools, and 2 high schools. All within the same county.
  6. I’m incredibly gassy. My mom always said that she knew I liked a guy if I hadn’t farted in front of him yet. Well, you know what? I’m a gassy lady and sometimes I can’t help it. I used to work at a restaurant where they called me “Bubbles”. It started because I was always so bubbly and positive but it stuck after a shift where I was barreled over in pain every time I came back in the kitchen because I had to fart so bad. I now burp a lot too. What can I say? I’m one classy lassie.
  7. I’m a terrible flyer. For some reason I have developed an intense fear of being in the air. It’s better with medication and if I have a window seat, but I’m a terrible companion. I will constantly think that we are going to die if we hit turbulence. Fun Fact: My parents own a plane and my stepmom is a pilot. She finally got me up in the air and I even flew the plane for about 57 seconds with her by my side.
  8. I love tequila. And tacos. Equally. I am quite wild when I’m tequila’d up and make some interesting choices. Like proposing to one of my besties in a busy restaurant so we could get a good table or climbing trees and acting like a vampire.
  9.  Sweet potatoes are my favorite food group. I could, and often do, eat them in some form for every meal. An active lifestyle is also super important to me. Yes, I do CrossFit but I also hike, camp, and basically love the outdoors.
  10. I am always playful.  Life is too short for negativity and I also look for the bright side of things. Laughing is my favorite form of exercise. I even won two “Playful” awards when I worked for Snooze.

 

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I have legit gone to the dark place. You know the one. Where your heart is broken, you’ve lost most of your sense of worth, and you have no idea what your purpose is anymore. Or maybe you never did?

I’m have what Sia calls an elastic heart. The end of last year I fell wickedly hard in love and FAST. It was a whirlwind relationship that caught me by surprise and I was ready for it. I finally felt like I could be myself, farts and all, and I felt whole. I felt like I was enough. Until I wasn’t enough anymore. I couldn’t make him happy and he felt like I wasn’t trying, so it all just kind of fell apart and just like that, it was over. A bunch of little things added up to big things. Cruel words were said that can’t be taken back. We both disappointed each other and now I’m just left with the pieces of my elastic heart that don’t seem quite so elastic anymore.

Fast forward to this past Monday morning where I couldn’t get him out of my head. All I wanted was to hear from him. To hear something. I was a head case all morning at the gym and during my workout I lost focus as he popped into my head. The WOD included box jumps, which are already a fear of mine having skinned my shin on them twice before, and in the last 5 seconds of the workout I let my mind wander to him. BAM. I missed the box and came down on my shin. If you follow me on Instagram then you already know what happened and I apologize for the gore in my story. For those of you who don’t, I busted my shin open down to the bone and had to go to the ER for stitches.

Thank you universe. I hear you. But you didn’t have to throw a big fat FUCK YOU my way for thinking about him.

So yeah. That happened. Now I have some really ugly stitches and a huge hole in my leg and heart. I’m not good at this. Heartbreak. Loneliness. Feeling like I’m enough. It’s quite silly really because if you look at my life from the outside I’m quite lucky. I have parents who love and support me, I have pretty cool friends all over the US and parts of Canada. My job is rad. I’m super active. But inside, there is this emptiness inside of me that consumes me often. I go to therapy and I’ve somewhat tried prescription meds but there it is. My love for this guy was very real and having him not in my life anymore shoved in my face that I base WAY too much of my self-worth in having others in my life.  More specifically men and my desire to have a partner in this crazy world.

So now I’m on this journey of self-love and discovery. It’s pretty dark, ugly, and ridiculously lonely. I mean, I don’t even want to hear myself talk about depression or anxiety so I’m sure it’s hard for friends and family to listen. That’s why social media is a highlight reel, ya feel me? But you know what, it’s important to talk about these things and know that you aren’t alone. And yes there are worse things happening to people but it’s all relative and this is my reality right now and it hurts.

So here’s to heartbreak and loneliness and learning to love yourself. After 35 years of disappointment in myself and others, countless life lesson talks from my parents and friends, I’m diving into a relationship with myself and batting these demons. I’m worth it, I’m awesome, and it’s about time I started acting like it.

I’m depressed and terrified and I’m going to fail millions of times, but I’m brave enough to keep trying.

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I am a victim, but only because I choose to be.

I wait for you because I crave your touch. Your voice. Your lips. Your call. Your love.

I wonder if she knows about the parts of your heart that forever belong to me.

I sit in wonder and wait for a love that will never be mine.

I wait for your selfish heart to take me out of the wings and let me take center stage in your heart once again.

I wait for the moments to return when we laughed and held closely to the idea of an us.

I am a victim. Your victim. Be gentle with my heart while I wait.

baking & boots

A few weekends ago, I committed to attending the REI Garage Sale with my boyfriend.  This event allows you to purchase slightly (or aggressively) used apparel and equipment at a faction of the cost.  We got a late ticket time, so it was slim pickings by noon.  I was on the hunt for hiking boots and a puffy down coat.  My puffy coat dreams will have to wait, but I did manage to find a pair of Lowa hiking boots for $100!  Colin told me that was steal for that brand, especially since they didn’t even appear to be used at all.  I swallowed the vomit that spending $100 on hiking boots brought on* and made the purchase.

I also found a pair of Smart Wool long johns for $5.  SCORE.

Took these bad boys for a spin around Sloan Lake this morning.

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I am one step closer to not dropping loads of dough on hiking and camping equipment.

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I also spent the weekend cooking and baking up a storm.  I have a giant bag of Made in Nature dried figs that I purchased from Costco.  They stopped carrying the dried mango (WHY??!  WHYYYYYY!?!), so I thought these would cut it.

Although delicious, they are not, in any way shape or form, the same as dried mangos.

NOTHING is as delicious as these dried mangos.

Except tacos.  Always tacos.

I knew I needed to make something with my JUMBO bag of dried figs, so I present to you…

APPLE FIG CRUMBLE

(gluten and dairy free if you wanna be)

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  • Preheat oven to 375 degrees
  • Grease a 9×9 pan with Kerrygold butter (or coconut oil)
  • In a blender/food processor mix
    • 1 cup gluten free oats
    • 1/4 cup raw almonds
    • 1/4 cup pecans
    • 1/4 cup brown sugar (mine was rock hard so I blended it)
    • 2 tablespoons cinammon
  • Mix your oat puree with 1/4 cup chopped up cold Kerrygold butter (or dairy free) to create your crumble.  I used my hands**, but you could also just add this to your blender/food processor.
  • Set aside and cube
    • 3 Fugi apples
    • 1 cup Made in Nature dried figs
  • Mix in 9×9 pan with cinnamon to taste***
  • Add oat crumble to the top of your fruit and cinnamon mix.
  • Bake at 375 for 45 minutes or until crumble is browned just the way you like it.

ENJOY!

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*DISCLAIMER:  I have since learned that these boots retail for almost $250.  This makes me feel much better about life.

**DISCLAIMER:  Don’t be gross. Please wash your hands.

***DISCLAIMER:  I accidentally dumped about 1/4 cup of cinnamon into the pan.  I do not recommend you do this, as it is all you will taste in this recipe.

my love affair with sweet potatoes

Do you have one of those foods that you could eat endless supplies of?  Mine is tacos.  And pizza.  But for performance foods AND tastiness, my body has a love affair with sweet potatoes.  My friends tease me for it, and I seriously question how I haven’t taken on the shade of an Oompa Loompa .

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For my weekly meal prep, I regularly roast up broccoli, sweet potatoes and brussels sprouts.  It’s easy and OH SO delicious.  Roast any vegetable and I’m totally okay with it.  During the month of February (and slightly into March), I completed the Whole 30.  Meal prepping went to a whole new level when you have to look for added sugars, no legumes, no dairy, etc.  I like to think that I eat relatively clean anyway, but I had to get creative!

One of my favorite go-to meals was SO easy and my boyfriend (who did NOT complete the Whole 30 with me) LOVED it.

Crockpot Meat Sauce

  • 1 jar spaghetti sauce (Whole 30 compliant..I LOVED Raos Homemade)
  • 1 box of mushrooms chopped
  • 1 lb ground meat of choice
  • 1 onion chopped
  • 1/4 cup olive oil
  • 2 tablespoons garlic powder
  • 1 tablespoon coarse ground pepper
  • 1 teaspoon salt
  • 1 tablespoon italian seasoning
  • handful of fresh basil chopped

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Seriously just throw that shit in the crockpot on low for 6 hours and you’re in heaven.  I would usually pour it over spaghetti squash, but I was recently reunited with my spiralizer and tried sweet potato noodles!!  Oh my gosh.  GAME CHANGER.

I present to you

Swoodles

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  • Peel two sweet potatoes
  • Spiralize the shit out of said sweet potatoes
  • Sautee over medium heat with olive oil and garlic powder for 7-10 minutes

 

ENJOY!

Paleo Coffee aka: sexy smackers

I remember the first time I made myself a coffee drink that I could actually stomach.  I was a freshman in college and I made the sickliest mocha.  I was a barista, which was ironic, because I didn’t drink coffee.  There was, seriously, so much chocolate in this drink.  Then my love affair with coffee began.  I didn’t drink it every morning, I didn’t need the caffeine to feel alert.  I certainly never made coffee at home.  As time passed, and my career as a barista continued, I slowly weaned off the flavorings.  First it was to a vanilla latte, then it was a white chocolate mocha.  At one point, I discovered that adding white chocolate powder to an americano was a game changer.  Then one day I went cold turkey and started drinking my coffee black.  Okay, so it wasn’t cold turkey and I was actually forced to drink it that way because I ran out of creamer.

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I’ve always said that my favorite meal to go out for is breakfast.  There is something really special about starting your day sipping java with someone.  A chance to catch up.  A chance to cuddle up on the couch and connect.  So many conversations over so many caffeinated drinks.  I always order coffee when I go out for breakfast and until recently, that was the only time I enjoyed a steaming cup o’ joe.  Colin drinks coffee every morning, so it was an adjustment when he starting grinding the beans for me too.  But I went with it, always black, except the few times that I would add some almond milk to cool it down.  I became a creature of habit and before I knew it, I was having a cup almost every morning.

I had heard of paleo coffee over the last few years, but never done much research.  I’d tried paleo in the past, without any guidance, and just following the advice “just eat meat and fats”.  Needless to say, it was not a successful attempt and I was a bit turned off when I wasn’t seeing or feeling the results I had hoped for.  When I joined Crossfit Train last year, I just kept hearing the coach talk about her meals, and watching her move, how strong she was, and the fact that she had just pushed a baby out of her only three (3) months prior that I REALLY wanted to know more.  I’m obsessed with self-improvement books, so I bought every cookbook I saw, I read every article I got my hands on and I started following every paleo icon on Instagram.  She kept talking about the Whole 30 and how we should do it as a group, so I did what any normal person would do.  I went to Target, bought the book, read it cover to cover, followed every Whole 30 Instagram account and signed up for their newsletter.  We started the Whole 30 on February 1st.

I figured this would be the best time to try paleo coffee.  There are so many variations and recipes.  My first attempt was blending coconut oil and cinnamon.  It was delicious until the end of the morning and the end of my cup.  A weird slime had come together in my cup and it was a terrible moment when I attempted to swallow this paleo slime.  I swapped out the cinnamon for ghee on my next attempt, since it’s Whole 30 approved.  I blended one teaspoon of coconut oil and one teaspoon of ghee with one cup of coffee.  It was delicious and also gave my lips a sexy sheen!  BONUS!  I still make this version on occasion, but my go to is a tablespoon of coconut oil on a spoon.  Put the spoon in my coffee cup.  Pour coffee over the cup, stir and enjoy!  It’s not nearly as frothy as when I blend it, but it saves me time in the morning.  I’m debating purchasing a frother this weekend.  Even though I have omitted the cinnamon, mixing the two reminds me of my grandmother’s cinnamon toast.  It’s been magical.

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I’m really looking forward to trying other variations of paleo coffee after my Whole 30.  Like this Metabolic Paleo Coffee they serve at Honor Society in Denver, CO.

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AMAZON WARRIOR PRINCESS

Due to a Facebook tag of some mutual friends, I saw an ex-boyfriend and his new girlfriend on a trip together.  This was a relationship that ended badly.  Like, SO bad.  I’m pretty sure (I know actually) that he hates me and pretty much wishes he had never met me.  We were together off and on for almost three years.  I hurt him and I burned some serious bridges with people while we were together.  Friends were lost.  People were hurt.  Choices were made.  But you know what?  At one point, I loved him.  We were friends.  It was fun and beautiful.  Our time was a time full of so many moments.

The ugly and the beautiful.

I had a lot of dreams when we were together.  Dreams I never pursued.  Dreams I never believed I could do.  Dreams that terrified me.  I was stuck.

I’m not proud of a lot of the choices I made during those three years.  “When you love someone, you don’t hurt them or make them feel awful.”  I remember him telling me that once.  Now, I know your mind is racing with ideas of what happened, so let me say that I never cheated on him.  But I never let him fully love me, and that can be the same thing if not worse.  Truth be told, I never loved myself enough to be strong.  I wish I would have loved myself sooner because then I could have let him go.  I held on so tightly to what we once had that I suffocated the life out of our relationship.  It needed to end.  But it was hard.  It was messy.  It was ugly and beautiful due to its necessity.

Okay, you’re probably like, what the fuck is the point of this story?!  Why are you bringing up a relationship that was SO terrible and ended almost two years ago and what does this have to do with anything!?

So, I have wanted to be in the fitness industry for so many years.  I remember my friend Chris Daly telling me once (okay, a THOUSAND times) that I was an AMAZON WARRIOR PRINCESS and I just needed to realize it for myself.  He is who really planted the seed of endless possibilities and strength inside this strong body of mine.  But I never believed that I was capable.  I was afraid.

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Fitness is hard.  Your body is quick to point out your weaknesses and you have to push yourself past the place of fear, and truly believe that you are capable.  It’s a mental game.  I’ve had gym memberships, trained and prepped for fitness competitions, placed in fitness competitions, participated in Zumba and bootcamps.  I’ve had personal trainers and done YouTube workouts.  Oh, and yoga (my nemisis)…and most recenly I found Crossfit.  I LOVE FITNESS.  I love what it teaches me every single day.  It has made me strong and it’s a part of me that I lost in that relationship.  I stopped loving and choosing myself first.

I am choosing to be unstoppable.

During every workout, I am challenged every day to face my fears.  Look my demons in the face and say NO!  My imperfections and weaknesses remind me of what I used to be.  But you know what?  I’m not that girl anymore.  I’m not afraid.  I’m strong. It’s taken me 7 years to get to this place and it is a never ending battle that I refuse to lose.

I AM CAPABLE.

I have accepted an internship at Crossfit Train.  I start in two weeks.

HELL YES.